Outside The Kitchen Window



MENTOR by definition means someone who is an experienced and trusted adviser. Someone who coaches, trains and helps you improve. Someone who guides you, shows you a direction, helps you discover and develop your goals. Someone who motivates you to lead and be successful. Someone who inspires you and helps in learning and rediscovering yourself.

I am not someone who follows people blindly. I learn something or the other from everyone I meet. Be it a crawling infant, a teenager or a bald old man like my Dad. I believe that everyone leaves some footprints behind. These are life lessons you’ll not be able to learn from any book or repository. These are collectively known as experiences.

I don’t spend too much time inside the kitchen for I am not very fond of cooking. I randomly mix-up vegetables, garnish them with the colourful powders available as though it were a rangoli. I am still learning to draw a perfect circle or a triangle using the aata that I knead imagining it as the husband. As the mixer jar goes up in sound peace prevails for I can’t hear the continuous screaming of the girls. An escapade it is not. But there’s this one spot I love in my kitchen. The kitchen window. It provides me with a different perspective of the outside world.

As I type this post sitting on my kitchen slab looking outside my favourite window my biggest mentor peeps in. The Sun. He is the biggest mentor because there’s a lot I have learnt from him. The most important: after drowning down every evening he makes sure to rise up again in the morning every single day without fail. His early morning golden rays as they seep in through the window spreads smiles on every thing that they fall upon.

Oh there! On that building. I see the newspaper guy looking at something very seriously. A little while later I see him picking up a long stick and trying to push down the newspaper that accidentally fell on the asbestos sheet. All along the lady of the house that probably missed the newspaper kept shouting at him. After multiple failed attempts he now jumped slowly onto the asbestos sheet. As I held my breath praying for his safety, he slowly but steadily reached a spot close enough to push the rolled newspaper bunch down into auntyji‘s balcony. He could have provided her with another newspaper but he chose to listen to her bakwaas early in the morning and yet complete his task beautifully. That’s what I term as dedication and perseverance.

So you see you can find mentors in all facets of life. They teach you and train you without even knowing that they are doing so.

Yesterday night I happened to watch this movie Listen… Amaya on Beloo‘s recommendation.

Madhureeta Mukherjee gives it 3 out of 5 stars for the Times of India, stating “Avinash Kumar Singh has sensitively handled a strong subject textured with social and psychological complexities. His characters peel layers of emotions, without over-dramatizing scenes, or amplifying the issue. It is subtle and sincere.

Oneindia also praised the film, stating, “Kudos to Avinash Kumar Singh for handling such a sensitive topic so brilliantly. The movie is neither too preachy nor too over dramatised.



A simple movie casting Farooque Sheikh, Deepti Naval and Swara Bhaskar in the lead roles. I loved the movie for multiple reasons. First and foremost it showcased the relationship between a mother and a daughter quite beautifully. With a soon-to-be 9-year old daughter who has started exhibiting her free will and displeasure at anything and everything, I could feel their relationship quite easily. As they say, it’s sometimes dhoop (sunlight) and sometimes chhaanv (shadow). She too has been a great mentor. A teacher who taught me (rather is teaching me) important lessons on motherhood. The movie also showed how difficult it is for many of us to accept a change in routine, a change in relationships, a change in our loved ones life. All because of fear that comes out of love. You love them so much that it hurts to imagine that you might lose them. This fear makes us not to accept others the way they are or hurt them. The third thing that it taught me was that life doesn’t stop for anyone and everyone must move on. You never know when you’re going to reach a blind spot. So live your life on your own terms and let others too live their life as they wish.

In Anu’s words, too long a lecture that was early in the morning. Pakao mat Mammma! Time for a cup of coffee and then back to work.

So that’s my last post before I take a two weeks break. A spiritual tour with the girls and my parents to my hometown awaits me. I hope this short break helps me rediscover myself. Will be back with lots of stories from God’s Own Country.

Bye for now,

Have fun!

P.S. – I haven’t been reading much in the last month or more because of the chaos that surrounded me in personal and professional spheres. Hope to get back on track as soon as I’m back.


Today’s Project 365 prompt for me is

Do you have a mentor? Tell us about him or her. Are you a mentor to someone else? Tell us what that relationship has added to your life.


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10 Replies to “Outside The Kitchen Window”

  1. Your post is outstanding. I have been fortunate to have had more than one mentor in my life. I will be grateful for those mentors for the rest of my life..

    1. Most of us do have a lot of mentors in our lives. Some of them even we aren’t aware of. Even I’m blessed with lots of them and am grateful for their time in my life. Thank you so much for taking time to read. 🙂

  2. Beautiful post, Rekha! I like the spontaneity and free-thinking flow of this write-up. I recently got some over-grown vines trimmed outside my kitchen window and now the Sun that shines through every morning from that window is a delight indeed. I agree with you completely that everyone and every experience in life touches us somewhere and can be a learning moment for us, if we are conscious of that and take it in that spirit. Have a wonderful vacation. And thanks for the kind mention. Happy that you enjoyed the movie, I liked that it was so different from the usual masala formula which I can’t stand anymore. And of course Farooq Sheikh and Deepti Naval are always so wonderful together.

  3. We all have many mentors. As you said, we aren’t aware of some of them. In fact, many of them are totally unaware that they inspire the people around them!!

    2 days back, I remarked to a client that I was inspired by his watchman’s dedication and enthusiasm! We then proceeded to discuss how any and every ‘ordinary’ person could be an inspiration in some way or other.

  4. Have a good time relaxing. God’s own country is the perfect place for it. My kitchen window overlooks the street outside the home. My favorite place to relax is in the sitout or the husband’s organic terrace garden preferably with Coco by my feet. 🙂

  5. WoW, Rekha. You wrote the post from the kitchen..it’s so true bout the Sun that pushes us in the morning as a mentor and many of us don’t realize its sheer power. Dedication in life matters a lot.
    I am on a 20 days break and wish you enjoy it:)

  6. Enjoy your time in Kerala ! 🙂
    Unfortunately, my kitchen doesn’t have walls or a window!! 😛
    But, I love my huge front window and I spend many hours happily sitting on my rocking chair, feet propped up, cup of coffee by my side gazing out as the world hurries by! 🙂

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