When Zuckerberg developed Facebook, not even in his wildest dreams he would have imagined that his brainchild would turn out to be such a disastrous mirage.
Yes. I called it a disaster.
People acquaint, make friends, fall in love, sometimes marry, break up and do almost everything on this platform that could have been put to better use. Of course, ‘People’ here includes yours truly too.
It brings a sense of superiority for some when their random post or photo gets liked by not one or two but a 100 odd ‘friends’ on their list. I do. And some nasty status update gets over a 1000 likes and over 100 comments from people who wouldn’t have even bothered to read and understand the update. Whatever! It makes the user enjoy a state of supremacy, a sense of being in control of one and all, a sense of being right no matter what. Yes, its now just a game of Like/Unlike. So much that there are even ad campaigns that use them for product promotions.
Zuckerberg created the Unfriend and Block buttons to help you keep perverts and other stalkers away. But…he wouldn’t have thought that these tools would play with the psyche of people. Some people now randomly share their private messages with a friend who shared in confidence with other friends and create what we call an ‘avial’ in my native language.
“Avial is a dish that is common in Kerala as well as Tamil cuisine and Udupi cuisine. It is a thick mixture of vegetables, curd and coconut, seasoned with coconut oil and curry leaves. Avial is considered an essential part of the Sadya, the Keralian vegetarian feast.”
~ Source: Shamelessly copied from WikiPedia
‘Avial’ as a dish is really yummy. But this ‘avial’ that I am talking of is nothing short of a World War. Random friends without a second thought press the Unfriend/Block buttons and the person who initiated it grins sitting in front of the LED/’Smartphone’ screen. Sometimes all it takes is a click to remove a person from your life who for whatever reason did not send a ‘Hello’ to you for sometime now. Purely their own wish. But what pains is they do not even bother to tell you what made them do so. In fact, they do not even bother to talk it out with you to clarify whether there’s any truth in what has been told or shown to them. There is always some benefit of doubt. Just like the Indian media which many a times shows and makes you believe what’s not true. This is what I believe in.
I am so glad we were brought up in an era when we could talk to friends, we could feel what their reactions were, share our secrets, gossip with them, bitch about them, have our share of fights, make up or break up. Everything was so real. But now I am worried for our children, who will have these virtual medium to base their impression of friendships.
We all have friends. We do gossip with them. We do bitch with them or about them. We fight. We talk. We make up. We have difference of opinion. We may have misunderstandings. We may not like everything about each other. We may choose not to communicate with each other. But, we do not press any button in a cold-blooded manner that severs all paths of reconciliation. Do we? I don’t. I have lost in friendship. Many a times. But I can never say that those people are no more my friends. I am sure over the course of life, some day somewhere we’ll meet, clear our misunderstandings, forgive each other and be friends again. Or may be not. But it’ll never be that they are not my friends.
So many people who are sensitive are being victim to this vicious circle of Unlike/Unfriend/Block. All I would like to say is this is not the end of the world and it’s simply their loss.
Don’t you think that it’s time to get real and stop letting this virtual space affect your moods and emotions and mishandle your relationships? I do. Instead why not use it as a learning or networking medium. There’s so much to learn and share. On a serious note, this post again was a learning that this disastrous platform provided.
Thank God there are no Unlike, Unfriend or Block buttons in real life!
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