Zuckerberg’s Game of Thrones


When Zuckerberg developed Facebook, not even in his wildest dreams he would have imagined that his brainchild would turn out to be such a disastrous mirage.

Yes. I called it a disaster.

People acquaint, make friends, fall in love, sometimes marry, break up and do almost everything on this platform that could have been put to better use. Of course, ‘People’ here includes yours truly too.

It brings a sense of superiority for some when their random post or photo gets liked by not one or two but a 100 odd ‘friends’ on their list. I do. And some nasty status update gets over a 1000 likes and over 100 comments from people who wouldn’t have even bothered to read and understand the update. Whatever! It makes the user enjoy a state of supremacy, a sense of being in control of one and all, a sense of being right no matter what. Yes, its now just a game of Like/Unlike. So much that there are even ad campaigns that use them for product promotions.

See I told you…it’s fun!

Zuckerberg created the Unfriend and Block buttons to help you keep perverts and other stalkers away. But…he wouldn’t have thought that these tools would play with the psyche of people. Some people now randomly share their private messages with a friend who shared in confidence with other friends and create what we call an ‘avial’ in my native language.

“Avial is a dish that is common in Kerala as well as Tamil cuisine and Udupi cuisine. It is a thick mixture of vegetables, curd and coconut, seasoned with coconut oil and curry leaves. Avial is considered an essential part of the Sadya, the Keralian vegetarian feast.”

~ Source: Shamelessly copied from WikiPedia

‘Avial’ as a dish is really yummy. But this ‘avial’ that I am talking of is nothing short of a World War. Random friends without a second thought press the Unfriend/Block buttons and the person who initiated it grins sitting in front of the LED/’Smartphone’ screen. Sometimes all it takes is a click to remove a person from your life who for whatever reason did not send a ‘Hello’ to you for sometime now. Purely their own wish. But what pains is they do not even bother to tell you what made them do so. In fact, they do not even bother to talk it out with you to clarify whether there’s any truth in what has been told or shown to them. There is always some benefit of doubt. Just like the Indian media which many a times shows and makes you believe what’s not true. This is what I believe in.

Stop Living under Threat

I am so glad we were brought up in an era when we could talk to friends, we could feel what their reactions were, share our secrets, gossip with them, bitch about them, have our share of fights, make up or break up. Everything was so real. But now I am worried for our children, who will have these virtual medium to base their impression of friendships.

We all have friends. We do gossip with them. We do bitch with them or about them. We fight. We talk. We make up. We have difference of opinion. We may have misunderstandings. We may not like everything about each other. We may choose not to communicate with each other. But, we do not press any button in a cold-blooded manner that severs all paths of reconciliation. Do we? I don’t. I have lost in friendship. Many a times. But I can never say that those people are no more my friends. I am sure over the course of life, some day somewhere we’ll meet, clear our misunderstandings, forgive each other and be friends again. Or may be not. But it’ll never be that they are not my friends.

So many people who are sensitive are being victim to this vicious circle of Unlike/Unfriend/Block. All I would like to say is this is not the end of the world and it’s simply their loss.

Don’t you think that it’s time to get real and stop letting this virtual space affect your moods and emotions and mishandle your relationships? I do. Instead why not use it as a learning or networking medium. There’s so much to learn and share. On a serious note, this post again was a learning that this disastrous platform provided.

Thank God there are no Unlike, Unfriend or Block buttons in real life!

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10 Replies to “Zuckerberg’s Game of Thrones”

  1. Interesting post, Rekha. I wouldn’t say it’s all to do with Facebook; Those people are probably as “fake and attention seeking” in real life; I think it’s about the maturity levels of those people. Like you said, their loss. Love the title 🙂

    1. Exactly my point, Sid! It’s nothing to do with FB. It’s the mentality of people. We are making it a medium to spit venom and spread negativity. Whereas there’s a lot more that we can use this medium for like spreading awareness about real issues. If used constructively this is one brilliant medium to make a difference to the world. Thanks for reading!

  2. Ah! I have had people unfriend me too and no reason I could discern. But, then, I never did take it seriously when they friended me in the first place, so it never was a big deal 🙂 As for those who have gone beyond FB friends, they are still around 🙂

  3. Like Suresh says, I never really cared about my FB friends until you guys turned up and even now, it just remains one easy medium to stay in touch with people I care about. All this friending, unfriending, liking, unliking, commenting, sharing, etc etc are things I could care less about.

    But your point about it being a potentially powerful medium for social change which is being used for inane, useless purposes is well taken.

  4. I can’t agree with you more, with most of the points. Then, it is users who should use it rationally, before accusing the media. And many times, I have been disappointed by the behavior (posts/comments/likes) of people over FB, that too when the educated people do it, I feel a sort of hatred too..Yes frankly speaking. Because we know their real colors and they fake themselves as someone /something else….unfortuantely likes/comments from the all these ape like people ( like, if one does, every other person who sees it does) encourage them to continue it…I too use to worry about its impact on the next generation, as U know, now all the babies are so tech savvy right from mom’s womb 😦

  5. Agreed and one of the main reasons why I do not get too involved on social media. Like you rightly pointed out its not FB’s fault, its the mentality of people who use this medium to behave childish. Childish because frankly I cannot think of a better term. I wonder why we place so much importance on a virtual world like this one but the reality is that we do. My solution is to stay away; it automatically weeds out unwanted nonsense along the way.

  6. Actually, I have had friends (thankfully only in my teens) who cut me off completely in real life; who wouldn’t contact me, avoided gatherings where I would be or else walked to the other side of the room etc! So, it’s something that our kids will face and there’s no two ways about it!
    Cutting off contact can be for a variety of reasons. You may feel that it is important to know the reason, or you can just get on without the person without too much of a fuss! I suspect that if the friend is solely on FB, that you can easily do the latter! 🙂

  7. I think Medium doesn’t matter. What people do offline, they are now doing online. I have not unfriended people in FB (yet), but I have done that in real life. I appreciate your positive attitude towards (former) friends. It’s difficult for me to believe that I’ll get back my friends (as they were, earlier), someday.

    Destination Infinity

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