Trust Your Instincts

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Should someone’s words stop you from making your own decisions? Should you step back like always just because your people are against your decisions?

When you’re ready to take your first independent flight, there’s a whole caravan waiting beneath to pull you down. They struggle to demotivate you, to make you turn back and never dare to take another flight. Fly. Surge ahead with all your might. This is the time you ought to be a child again and be determined and persistent. And as you take off, don’t forget to look back at them and smile. It kills them.

Many a times in life you find yourself left all alone, just because you dared to dream or you dared to take a decision of your life all by yourself. Do not waste your time pondering on what they might think of you or what will you do without them. They are anyway no longer with you. That precisely is the reason for this response. Isn’t it? So why worry about being alone? Why let them affect your decisions? If someone supports you well and good. If not, their loss.

People have set a criteria for you. A certain set of norms. They expect you to adhere to it. And when you try to take a different path, they panic. They panic because they are scared that your freedom, your decision might become a hurdle in their path. This is exactly why they conspire. They conspire to discourage you from looking beyond the uniformity they have prescribed for you. They fail to understand that you are an individual. A different one. With a different set of priorities. No one has the right to interfere with your decisions.

Yes. When it comes from your loved ones, it hurts. It hurts beyond words. But then, why should one bother about people who do not bother about hurting you.

Some of them are genuinely concerned. And so they try to persuade you to step back. But until you have taken your flight, how can you be sure if you’ll succeed or fail. Why should you step back? Why should you let the fear hold you back? There are greater risks involved. But then you do trust yourself. You do trust that you take informed decisions and not in the spur of the moment decisions. Then why worry? Let it all go. Don’t let the fear of the unknown stop you from trying.

Talk to yourself.

My success has been mine alone. And so will be my failures. I take responsibility for all my actions. It’s my life. It’s my decision. And I’m all set to fly. No one knows me the way I do. And so no one can judge me or my actions the way I do.

Trust your instincts, leap ahead and follow your heart.

I leave you with these beautiful quotes that motivate me.

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“The person in life that you will always be with the most, is yourself. Because even when you are with others, you are still with yourself, too! When you wake up in the morning, you are with yourself, laying in bed at night you are with yourself, walking down the street in the sunlight you are with yourself.What kind of person do you want to walk down the street with? What kind of person do you want to wake up in the morning with? What kind of person do you want to see at the end of the day before you fall asleep? Because that person is yourself, and it’s your responsibility to be that person you want to be with. I know I want to spend my life with a person who knows how to let things go, who’s not full of hate, who’s able to smile and be carefree. So that’s who I have to be.”
― C. JoyBell C.

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32 thoughts on “Trust Your Instincts

  1. Beautiful post Rekha. Your words- When it comes from your loved ones, it hurts. It hurts beyond words. But then, why should one bother about people who do not bother about hurting you- are VERY powerful. 🙂 Kudos!

  2. Wow! These are strong words. I was nodding away through your post. I guess these lines would hold true for so many situations. You really got to be your own person to survive this rat race. I believe when our own people don’t agree with our decisions, its because their advise for us is colored by their love for us…hence many a times they also falter in helping us decide what’s good for us.
    Truly inspiring, this was 🙂

  3. Great post, loved reading it, Rekha. Loved ones hurt us the most because we expect (and deserve!) their love and support in our ventures. Absolutely we must follow our heart no matter what others say … unless they’ve got a really good point! But even then I’ve been known not to listen. Other people judge and criticise what we do from their own standpoint. And from where they are they could be right, but it doesn’t mean it’s also right for us. So, follow our own heart. Blessings, Andrea

    • Thanks for dropping by at my virtual abode Andrea! Expectations and desire definitely are the cause for hurt. And yes, nobody is right or wrong. It’s just the situations that make some sound wrong. Glad to have you here. 🙂

  4. Strong post Rekha and so true.. The words of our loved ones hurt more..
    But that feeling of ecstasy when one flies high is incomparable!
    I loved the lines – “My success has been mine alone. And so will be my failures. I take responsibility for all my actions. It’s my life. It’s my decision. And I’m all set to fly. No one knows me the way I do. And so no one can judge me or my actions the way I do.”

  5. You’re right that when loved ones appear to pull you down, it does hurt! I do try and think that they do it out of concern, but it can still be so stifling!!

  6. So true Rekha.. Lovely post… and I have experienced this thing the most in the past 1 year.. So, can relate to this post a lot… People seem to have the power to crush you.. And, there will always be somebody who will be dissatisfied with what you are doing.. If you are happy and satisfied, that is what counts and matters the most…

    • I understand Uma. The funny part is people knowingly try and crush you with their words and actions. The ultimate call definitely has to be one taken by us. After all it’s just this life that we have got.

  7. Chechi! This is wonderful 😀 Sharing this to fb. You have just said things that I always wanted to shout out to the world. Thanks for penning down this one 🙂

  8. Dear Just a thought why it hurts hurts beyond words because they come from the loved ones else you will never care for it and it will not hurt you too 🙂 just chill dear do what you want Ganesha is with you forever then what’s the worry 🙂

    • “because they come from the loved ones else you will never care for it and it will not hurt you too”

      Wow! Hamara bachha bada ho gaya and badi badi baatein karne laga hai. Well said, Renu! 🙂

  9. Lovely post Rekha and very thought provoking too.. I agree with Dagny, this line stayed with me the most
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    Yes. When it comes from your loved ones, it hurts. It hurts beyond words. But then, why should one bother about people who do not bother about hurting you.
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  10. THe truth for sure .. world is funny .. I have had my experiences with it now.. where I have reached a place that I am happy ALONE.. i get nostalgic I cry and what not but still I am happy ALONE..

    at various stages of life PEOPLE have taught me a important lesson.. Like when i left school and came to college.. Or left the country and came to uk and Now very recently when i went off blogging for a year ..

    I have changed over time and I am trying my BEST to change more .. so little things dont hurt me .. but am failing miserably.. the reason being I think that others also love and care for me .. as I do.. 🙂 but world is not like that .. people have little motives hidden.. 🙂

    hopefully god willing I will change toooo sooner rather than later ..

    so many thoughts reading your article ..

    • The truth is you came alone, you’re alone and you’ll go alone. But, these experiences are only to make you a better person and learn your lessons. At the end of the day, it is your life and you’ve every right to lead it the way you wish. I wish you get to meet some true people too.

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