“Shhh….don’t wail loudly. You Daadi will wake up and come and shout at both of us.”
“Shhh…don’t venture out at night. There are devils and witches out there who’ll suck your blood out.”
“Don’t laugh loudly. Your father doesn’t like anybody laughing loudly. It might attract evil eyes.”
“Don’t go far away from my sight. Don’t go to distant places even with friends and family. Something bad might happen.”
“Why do you want to study further? At the end of the day you only have to wash, cook and take care of the household. The more you study the lesser your marriage prospects will be. Apart from that your Dad will have to fight it out with an army of people from within the family and outside to let you even step outside of the house.”
“Girls like you only provoke people to ruin you. You can never really be anything more than a woman. The weaker sex. Do you want them to make you realize that?”
“Your marriage with so and so was fixed much before you were born. Don’t you dare refuse the proposal. It’s a matter of family honor.”
“Hey, can you ensure that you are not wearing a Jeans and Tee when you’re meeting my parents? They’ll approve of you faster if you wear traditional dresses.”
“I’m aware that I promised you equal rights and freedom, but honey, I beg you for the sake of the sanity of this house, to comply with the rules of the house. Else we might have to part ways. Then how will you survive in this society?”
“I know you’re a journalist, but you gotta understand that you’re living in this house and anything you write will affect us. Why do you write on politicians, society, and the blah blah blah. The so-and-so person you wrote on has caused this mob outside our house. Decide what you want from life: your family or your career.”
Sick and tired of this constant fear that is instilled in us from the very first day we are born.
Aren’t you? I am. Do you want to live in constant fear?
Terrorists, Rapists, Corrupt Officials, Abusers, Quacks, Criminals turned politicians…
…what do they have in common?
They all survive and thrive upon the following four letter word.
I’m 34 and mother of two. Yet I cannot say that I have complete freedom over my life.
No. No. I have been lucky in terms of being born into a good family, getting good education, living with the love of my life, enjoying a career of my choice.
But is that all?
Am I free to do what ever I want?
Am I free to speak whatever I want?
I have no freedom to speak or be myself. Because there’s a society that is constantly stalking me and judging me. I would like to rephrase this: A society that is constantly trying to pull me down by instilling this fear factor.
By the way, who is this society? Isn’t it us who make this so-called society. So then why? Why are we so different? Why are we interfering in everything that someone else does? Is it just lack of education? Or is it the constant conditioning? Or is it just nirmal anand of having scared someone or defeated someone?
Whatever it is, the thing is my society, or the society I am forced to be a part of , does not let me live my life the way I want or I should.
So? Who is at fault?
Isn’t it me? I mean you and me. Because the society comprises of you and me. So if we need to change the society, we ought to change ourselves.
As young children, you are our hope. We had a tougher battle to handle. But we have made some progress. Our generation (well a fairly big part of it) is much more accepting and adaptive compared to our previous generations. But you have to carry the baton forward. You ought to ensure that you want to fight it out for yourself, for your future generations.
The first step towards this is STOP LIVING IN FEAR. The more you fear people and their rules and principles, the more you are prone to living in the dark.
It’s just a week ago that the Malaysian aircraft MH 370 disappeared en route to Beijing. With so much advancement in science and technology, we have not been able to search for it or in getting any clues of its whereabouts. This is a situation worth being feared as this is one experience that tells us that there still are things beyond human comprehension and control. But should it stop us? No. It should inspire us to go that extra mile and invent technologies that can help us counter such situations in the future.
So children, what I want to request you today is
Make fear your most valuable weapon, not a hindrance in your growth.
Play safe and be careful, but do not over do it.
Last but not least, Live and Let Live.
I leave you with some quotes that make a lot of sense.
“I must say a word about fear. It is life’s only true opponent. Only fear can defeat life. It is a clever, treacherous adversary, how well I know. It has no decency, respects no law or convention, shows no mercy. It goes for your weakest spot, which it finds with unnerving ease. It begins in your mind, always … so you must fight hard to express it. You must fight hard to shine the light of words upon it. Because if you don’t, if your fear becomes a wordless darkness that you avoid, perhaps even manage to forget, you open yourself to further attacks of fear because you never truly fought the opponent who defeated you.”― Yann Martel, Life of Pi
After all, Darr ke aage Jeet hai! 🙂
One word of caution: Don’t act reckless just for the sake of being fearless as there is a difference between being fearless and being stupid. Overcome your fears confidently by preparing well and being sensible.
This post is part of the WordPress Daily Prompts : 365 Writing Prompts program where the aim is to post at least once a day based on the prompts that they have provided. Today’s prompt is, “Show and tell – You’ve been asked to do a five-minute presentation to a group of young schoolchildren on the topic of your choice. Describe your presentation.”
This is one of the contributions to Project 365 – A Post A Day.
*All pictures in this post are a result of Google Image Search for the word, Fear.