Sometime back I had written a post, Don’t Praise, But Do Compliment. I’m not sure if you read it or not, but that was written in the context of children. But a compliment I guess works the same way across all age groups.
From a “Good” in your notebook by your English Teacher in Class 1 to a “Well-done!” by the Lab In-Charge, when your experiment results matched the desired results to a “That was good.” or “Perfect!” from your boss, a sincere compliment goes a long way in motivating and inspiring you to be better and better.
In the last week I read at least about a dozen of articles on showering compliments. All this as part of contributing to National Compliment Day which was celebrated on Friday, 24th January, 2014 . I do not believe we need to wait for a day to compliment someone genuinely. But designated days like these are definitely a reminder for many of us.
“Sincerely-said compliments build our self-esteem and encourage us to keep up the good work.”
“…through giving of compliments, a positive connection with anyone will be quickly and easily achieved.“
“Are those receiving compliments the only ones who benefit? Certainly not! Giving of compliments makes us feel good inside and throws away loneliness. It also forges positive bonds. But these should be given sincerely. It shows the truthfulness of the saying: There is more happiness in giving than there is in receiving.”
In today’s world when social media rules our life more than our loved ones and personal issues are up for sale in public domain than being sorted out within the four walls of your cozy room, dirt is being thrown at each other just for the sake of competing for an imaginary world of power, a sincere compliment goes a long way. Even as I read some beautiful pieces/articles by some great writers whom I love reading, I also read some nasty status updates by some trying to make a mockery of others.
That is exactly when I read this beautiful quote on Tony A Gaskin’s Jr page and shared it with my comments. Never did I imagine in my wildest dreams that such an update would get me a compliment as huge as that. Knowing the person it came from, I know how truthful it is.
When you write, post an update or tweet, you can choose to be honest or extra-sweet or truthful or blunt or rude. Yes. I used ‘or’ because to me each of those have a different meaning. But what one must always remember is our words, even if it is about others, talk more about ourselves than about the ones we write on.
I woke up around 4 a.m. this morning (thanks to my disturbed sleep pattern over the weekend which I guess is because of the over-excitement about two full days at home), and got to read this beautiful note of appreciation. Life couldn’t have been more happier and content. Is there a more sincere way of appreciating?
I have no clue of who the sender is and I admit publicly that though she mentions that she is a regular reader of my blog and has commented a few times, I haven’t yet dropped by on her blog. But I promise to do so pretty soon. With all this, isn’t it the most sincere compliment? What touched me more was the fact that I inspired her to write again. I am well aware that what I write is no rocket science, neither are they pieces of wisdom. But yes, I write what I FEEL from the bottom of my heart. And that’s all that matters to me.
All of these matter to me a lot. But there was one compliment which tops the list. The other day, our office boy whom we envy for the humility he displays, came to me and said,
“Madam ji, aap se baat karke bahut achha lagta hai. Ek positive feeling aati hai. Aap hamesha khush rehte ho aur haste rehte ho na isliye.”
(Translation: “Madam ji, it feels good to talk to you. I get a positive feeling. Because you always remain happy and keep smiling.”)
His words were music to my ears. In our busy schedule, we often forget to make the smallest effort of smiling which can definitely make a lot of difference in someone else’s life apart from our own. That is exactly what my post Spreading Smiles is all about.
There is enough madness, bitterness and negativity all around us, so why not try and wipe out a little and bring about a change in someone’s life by spreading cheers as much as possible. Does that sound like a mammoth task?
Some beautiful and powerful posts that I read over the week:
- A Compliment Or Two by Dagny Sol at Serenely Rapt
- A genuine compliment! by Proactive Indian
- The Unsocial Side of Social Media by Purba Ray
- Laurie, I share your ‘short-cut’ and your feminism by Sakshi Nanda
- I did NOT do a favour by giving birth to my child! at Perceptions
- The World Is Yours? by Corinne Rodrigues at Everyday Gyaan
- Yes, the heart sees…! by Nabanita Dhar
- Compliment – an expression of love by Shellymona
And most importantly, try and shower a sincere compliment on someone who deserves it. You’ll only gain their respect and inspire them to be better.
Thank you for taking the time to read! You are my biggest inspiration.
Have a Happy Weekend! 🙂