After Dad’s accident in February 2000, a head-on collision of his Premier Padmini with DTC bus number 307, he never bought a car. We also never encouraged. He doesn’t remember those two days of his memory till date. Though the condition of the car made us lose all hopes of his survival, but by God’s grace he ended up with a few broken ribs and some wounds and scratches. He received immediate medical attention because it happened early in the morning right in front of Mom’s eyes when she was waiting for the school bus at the bus stand. I cannot imagine what she went through till he was back to normal. One of the experiences which made me more daring and responsible as I had to handle the policemen who came in at weird hours forcing us to lodge a complaint against the driver. Mom didn’t want these regular unscheduled visits from the men in uniform because she wanted to attend to her husband peacefully. That was the first time I learnt what being assertive was. I drove them away after a few arguments on why we would not want to lodge a complaint and why they should not trouble victims at weird hours. The thing was that they came in to source money. From us and from the driver. The driver did come and apologize and Dad was unhurt, so Mom didn’t want to get into a legal battle which could run into years with no results. She was more worried about us, two young girls in the house. That’s a chapter of our lives we have all shut and dumped just like Dad’s memory of those two days.
Though we never encouraged Dad to buy a new car, we all knew very well how much he wanted to have one. I always wanted to buy him one for his love for cars, but monetary situations and my fears never allowed me to.
In 2006 when Anu was born, I refused to take her out on two wheeler for fear that she might fall ill or we might lose her. (Yeah, I was really really possessive and cranky having gone through some bad phases. Feel bad for the family which handled my craziness with love and affection.) So thus, in 2006, I bought a second hand Maruti Suzuki 800, which I gifted Dad. That’s when Dad encouraged me to learn driving too so I can take care of myself and the kid without depending on anyone. And thus started my big journey with the ‘L’ board or ‘the Laloo board’ as it is commonly known as in saadi Dilli.
So I went to learn driving during my maternity leave and everything was fine on days other than weekends when the husband used to join me. Trust me when I say, learn driving from anyone, at any hour, but from your husband. The guy would never let me drive peacefully. He went:
‘Thok do, thok do…’ (Translates to Hit, hit…)
‘Left, Right, Left…’
My instructor had told me clearly that if he continued to accompany me, I’ll never learn driving. That’s when Dad started giving me lessons. I got it all so easily, but the love of my life started accompanying me again.
So though I took the driving lessons twice and got my driving license much before the man, I never gained confidence in driving alone.
A few months down the lane, the husband got a car from his new company under their policy. A brand new Hyundai Accent. More than him, I was the one who was beaming gleefully. I thought that was my chance to learn the lessons left. So off we went to learn driving again. This time from him, in his car. So just a few yards from home was this temple with a peepal tree and the ‘Mr.’ again said, ‘Thok do, Thok do…’ and I obeyed.
You must appreciate the fact that I’m really obedient. 😛
A few weeks later the same man took out his sister for driving classes in his car and was so patiently sitting while she learned her lessons. I was sitting right behind, fuming vigorously. But then I know Dad who was patient with me would not be so patient with Mom.
Moral of the Story
A man will have confidence in every other woman on earth, but his wife, when it comes to his priced possessions like a car, a camera or an iPad.
A generalization which might or might not fit into your stories. 😀
On a different note, it would be wrong to blame the husband completely for my lack of confidence to drive in the crazy Delhi traffic. But yes, he could have been a little more encouraging and supportive. I’m just waiting for the day he’s going to teach driving lessons to his daughters. That’ll be my day. Hee Haw…:-D
So, did I make you smile on this Sunday morning? If yes, leave your comments in the comment box below. 😀
*All pictures used in the post are a result of Google Image Search on Driving School.
This post is part of the WordPress Daily Prompts : 365 Writing Prompts program where the aim is to post at least once a day based on the prompts that they have provided. Today’s prompt is, “Apply yourself : Describe your last attempt to learn something that did not come easily to you.”