These days, I am observing a set pattern. Firstborn opens the door for me with a smile as wide as the ocean and before I complete my ‘Good Evening babies!’ she starts off with one riddle or the other that she has picked up from the newsletter that the school provides. She doesn’t even allow me a thinking time and blurts out the answer saying, ‘I knew you won’t know this.’ or ‘I knew you won’t get it.’
Though I’m delighted to see her beaming with pride and becoming more open and confident as she’s growing, this particular behavior is something I am unable to defend anymore. I feel if I won’t stop her now from thinking that Mamma (or Papa or anyone else) doesn’t know the answer, she might get into that category of humans who look down upon others. This is strictly my personal view.
Honestly this trait was induced in her by hubby and me only during the past few years when in an effort to encourage her and make her open up more, we used to say things like, ‘Oh, I didn’t know that.’, ‘You’re an intelligent girl.’, ‘You know all the right answers.’, ‘You go to a very good school.’ or ‘You have a wonderful teacher.’
This did help in making her self-confident and become more open in sharing and discussing her problems as well as day-to-day happenings with us, unlike when she was 4-5 years old. Back then she was an extremely introvert, shy and under-confident child.
But now I think it’s time to make amendments to this rule. I don’t want her to become an over-confident, self-obsessed and self-centered girl who feels superior to every single living being. That I think will be the biggest mistake I’ll ever make as a mother. I want her to fly with her wings wide open and yet be closer to her roots, so that she grows up to be a good human being than one with multiple certificates of achievements with little humility and gratitude towards fellow humans.
I wish and hope that I am taking the right turn at the right time.