“Once an old man spread rumours that his neighbour was a thief. As a result, the young man was arrested. Days later the young man was proven innocent. After being released he sued the old man for wrongly accusing him. In the court the old man told the Judge: “They were just comments, didn’t harm anyone.” The judge told the old man: “Write all the things you said about him on a piece of paper. Cut them up and on the way home, throw the pieces of paper out. Tomorrow, come back to hear the sentence.” Next day, the judge told the old man: “Before receiving the sentence, you will have to go out and gather all the pieces of paper that you threw out yesterday.” The old man said: “I can’t do that! The wind spread them and I won’t know where to find them.” The judge then replied: “The same way, simple comments may destroy the honour of a man to such an extent that one is not able to fix it. If you can’t speak well of someone, rather don’t say anything.” Moral: Let’s all be masters of our mouths, so that we won’t be slaves of our words. Gud mrng”
A good morning message I received this morning from my friend, Prats. The meaning of the message is so deep that I had to share it here at my space with a little bit of my garnishing and seasoning with my words.
Most of the times, people do not think before speaking. More so when they are speaking ill of someone. We must understand that we are responsible for the words we utter. Our intention might not be wrong, but we are responsible for the way our words are perceived by others. Our words have an effect on other people. Many a times, regardless of our intention, our words just hurt. And trust me, a wound by a dagger heals much easily than the wounds caused by words. The effect of words is so much that it can encourage a person and it can also break the person.
Take the example of our own home. Sometimes an unintentional remark from our spouse hurts us so much. Some other times, a careless comment from the kids cut us deep within. Similarly, our words too, though unknowingly, might be hurting others in some manner.
Spoken words can never be taken back.
It’ll always be good to weigh your words before you spit them out. Be responsible in the choice of words, assess the context in which you’re using, take into account the feelings of others. When words have so much power and strength, why not use it for the betterment of all.
Choose your words wisely.
We cannot control the manner in which others analyze our words or perceive our words, but we can definitely control the way our words affect others. The same words which when used effectively, can create magic for self and for others. So, when the same words can help you bring a positive change, why should you let it out to spread negativity.
We must be extremely cautious and careful while using our words, especially when we are speaking about people and controversial issues.
Now for the sake of the quote-loving person in me, here are a few quotes on words that I would love to share.
“Words are like eggs dropped from great heights; you can no more call them back than ignore the mess they leave when they fall.”
― Jodi Picoult, Salem Falls
“Words are timeless. You should utter them or write them with a knowledge of their timelessness.”
― Kahlil Gibran
“If you say a word, it leaps out and becomes the truth. I love you. I believe it. I believe I am loveable. How can something as fragile as a word build a whole world?”
― Franny Billingsley, Chime
“That’s what careless words do. They make people love you a little less.”
― Arundhati Roy, The God of Small Things
“Because even the smallest of words can be the ones to hurt you, or save you.”
― Natsuki Takaya
“Actions are the first tragedy in life, words are the second. Words are perhaps the worst. Words are merciless. . .”
― Oscar Wilde, Lady Windermere’s Fan / A Woman of No Importance / An Ideal Husband / The Importance of Being Earnest / Salomé