Words Do Matter

“Once an old man spread rumours that his neighbour was a thief. As a result, the young man was arrested. Days later the young man was proven innocent. After being released he sued the old man for wrongly accusing him.
In the court the old man told the Judge: “They were just comments, didn’t harm anyone.” The judge told the old man: “Write all the things you said about him on a piece of paper. Cut them up and on the way home, throw the pieces of paper out. Tomorrow, come back to hear the sentence.”
Next day, the judge told the old man: “Before receiving the sentence, you will have to go out and gather all the pieces of paper that you threw out yesterday.”
The old man said: “I can’t do that! The wind spread them and I won’t know where to find them.”
The judge then replied: “The same way, simple comments may destroy the honour of a man to such an extent that one is not able to fix it. If you can’t speak well of someone, rather don’t say anything.”
Moral: Let’s all be masters of our mouths, so that we won’t be slaves of our words.
Gud mrng”

A good morning message I received this morning from my friend, Prats. The meaning of the message is so deep that I had to share it here at my space with a little bit of my garnishing and seasoning with my words.

Most of the times, people do not think before speaking. More so when they are speaking ill of someone. We must understand that we are responsible for the words we utter. Our intention might not be wrong, but we are responsible for the way our words are perceived by others. Our words have an effect on other people. Many a times, regardless of our intention, our words just hurt. And trust me, a wound by a dagger heals much easily than the wounds caused by words. The effect of words is so much that it can encourage a person and it can also break the person.

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Take the example of our own home. Sometimes an unintentional remark from our spouse hurts us so much. Some other times, a careless comment from the kids cut us deep within. Similarly, our words too, though unknowingly, might be hurting others in some manner. 

Spoken words can never be taken back. 

It’ll always be good to weigh your words before you spit them out. Be responsible in the choice of words, assess the context in which you’re using, take into account the feelings of others. When words have so much power and strength, why not use it for the betterment of all.

Choose your words wisely. 

We cannot control the manner in which others analyze our words or perceive our words, but we can definitely control the way our words affect others. The same words which when used effectively, can create magic for self and for others. So, when the same words can help you bring a positive change, why should you let it out to spread negativity.

We must be extremely cautious and careful while using our words, especially when we are speaking about people and controversial issues. 

Now for the sake of the quote-loving person in me, here are a few quotes on words that I would love to share. 

“Words are like eggs dropped from great heights; you can no more call them back than ignore the mess they leave when they fall.” 
― Jodi Picoult, Salem Falls

“Words are timeless. You should utter them or write them with a knowledge of their timelessness.” 
― Kahlil Gibran

“If you say a word, it leaps out and becomes the truth. I love you. I believe it. I believe I am loveable. How can something as fragile as a word build a whole world?” 
― Franny BillingsleyChime

“That’s what careless words do. They make people love you a little less.” 
― Arundhati Roy, The God of Small Things

“Because even the smallest of words can be the ones to hurt you, or save you.” 
― Natsuki Takaya

“Actions are the first tragedy in life, words are the second. Words are perhaps the worst. Words are merciless. . .” 
― Oscar WildeLady Windermere’s Fan / A Woman of No Importance / An Ideal Husband / The Importance of Being Earnest / Salomé


11 Replies to “Words Do Matter”

  1. Lovely post, so often I have experienced in my own life that careless words, words that are spoken out of frustration and anger, out of sorrow, these hurt the listener more than anything else. While actions can be relatively easily explained, words cannot, and in the course of explaining the cause of these words, more unnecessary words are spoken, aren’t they?

    That being said, i also believe in the second part of one of the quotes above, words have a wonderful healing power as well. All issues in this world can be sorted out by the affected parties sitting together and having a heart to heart talk about them, right.

    Awesome post, reminding us all to watch our words.

  2. Excellent post!

    Many people are touchy but not sensitive. They get hurt easily when some negative remark is made about them, but they have no qualms about making negative remarks about others.

    Just an hour back, I was requested to arbitrate in a business dispute between 2 persons. Both parties wanted to discuss the matter in my presence. I told them that, instead of starting with a meeting, each person should present his case to me by email; I will discuss with each person privately, and they should not discuss this subject with each other. I did this because the written word can be chosen wisely and usually is. People think twice/thrice before putting something in writing, but there is the very high risk of something inappropriate and/or hurtful being said during a verbal discussion, particularly when a dispute is involved. (I took the added precaution of asking them to email to me, not to each other.)

  3. satyam bruyat priyam bruyat na bruyat satyam apriyam
    priyam ca nanrutam bruyat esha dharmah sanatanah

    Speak truth, speak the pleasant. Never speak truth, which is unpleasant.. Never speak untruth, which might be pleasant. This is the path of eternal morality, sanatana dharma

  4. That, indeed, is a much needed msg that most people agree with but few actually adhere to 🙂 And the converse too. It is so easy to please people by saying things like “Thank you” and “I appreciate it” and there is hardly anyone who does not feel pleased hearing it or displeased when they are not said when warranted. But how many say it to others when necessary?

  5. That’s a point well made. Words do leave an indelible imprint and they are much like a double-edged sword. Used wisely they can make a difference in a positive way and used recklessly they can cost a fortune or worse still a loving relation.

  6. I liked how you garnished the already wise words of wisdom with your own thoughts and then also topped it all up with the words of some of the most popular voices of our generation.

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