Mommies, Daddies, would-be Moms and Dads…HELP!!!

I had thought of taking a break from writing this month, but I am back because I need your help. And trust me, I need it badly.

I am sure it’s going to be the same with most of you. But then I believe sharing helps lessen the burden and helps us to grow and improve.

Lil Love has been troubling me a lot since past few weeks, more so in the last 4-5 days. She’s extremely stubborn and cranky and is not ready to listen to me at all. I am having a tough time with my migraine on and this little girl is literally killing me with her cries and screams. I am unable to bear the pain and feel like I won’t be able to handle it any further. In an effort to not let her yelling affect me, I start yelling back and trust me; I hate it more than anyone else. I feel like a barking dog and yet no one takes me seriously.

I get even more furious when Mr. Right comes in at around 11.00 p.m. from work and counsels me saying,

“You should handle her patiently.”

Here I must agree that he is a lot more patient with kids than I am.

I have tried pacifying her, cajoling her, caressing her, scolding her and I even gave a few strokes with a comb below her knees. Trust me when I say, it pains me more than her to hurt her in this way. I completely know there’s something wrong that I am doing, but I am unable to understand what the right thing to do is.

I might look insane to people who know that I am a mother of two that I am unable to handle this naughty little girl. Fortunately or unfortunately, I have never had this kind of trouble with Anu, my elder one, who was much quiet and reserved. Even now, she doesn’t bother me much and it is much easier to understand her and her temperament. But Lil Love is really testing my patience.

I am sure this is just a temporary stage, but I would love to handle it in a better way. I don’t want to be a bad mother.

I am tired.


8 Replies to “Mommies, Daddies, would-be Moms and Dads…HELP!!!”

  1. Start listening to Lil Love, by this I mean calming yourself down, so that you can try to calm her or she calms down when she sees that you are calmed. Go down to her eye level and tell her “mummy is listening, what is wrong? Tell me and we shall solve it together.”

    You can try hugging her and rubbing her back first to calm her down. Or tell her in a calm voice don’t scream, mummy is listening. Or accept and show her that you know she is upset but she has to speak slowly/softer so that you can understand. If you like, you can drop me an email and we can discuss further =) My 7yr old is a handful too when he was younger, he is only better this year so I am getting my peace only now hehehe~

    As for your migraine, rub either lavender or peppermint essential oil on your nose, breath in slowly and you should feel better soon.

    1. That was indeed a lovely message. I guess the intolerance was more owing to my migraine attack. I am much better now and we are friends again. Thank you for taking time and providing such a wonderful piece of advise. 🙂

  2. Because I fully trust your parenting skills I will not offer any advice. I will simply ask you to come visit me, with your Lil Love. The kids can play in the toy room, and we can both relax over cups of coffee and easy banter. 🙂 While you are allowed to feel tired, you are not to feel guilty, ever. 🙂

    1. Thank you, Sakshi! The anger and frustration was more owing to my migraine attack and the added burden of unit tests for Anu. I think I took the vacations a bit too seriously and am yet to get out of it. Will definitely plan an outing together sometime soon…the next two weekends are gonna be real hectic as we are travelling. 🙂

  3. Aww Rekha your are not alone .. you’ve read my story and i am told it’s the same story everywhere.. All the mums in the playschool she goes have the same feeling .. I can only pray that this phase gets over soon … loved your blog !! felt everyword was spoken from the heart … cheers.

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