This is a post I have written for ‘10 life lessons I learnt from my father’ at Parentous.com.
All those who are or have been a regular reader of my posts, already know how influenced I’m by my father.
So, here are the 10 Life Lessons I Learnt From My Father.
- As a toddler I used to stumble upon silly things and fall down on the floor. My Dad would never pick me up, but will say, “The more number of times you fall, the more stronger and alert you become.” He’s the one who taught me that falling down doesn’t mean defeat. It just means you have to try again and again with much more dedication.
- My Father speaks very less, but whenever he speaks, I’m all ears. I do not like to miss out on anything that he says. When I queried him on why he speaks so less, he replied, “You must always weigh your words before you utter them. You never know which ones hurt whom. Speak only if you have something good to say or nice to share.”
- My Dad is now a senior citizen and I have always seen him wash his clothes, iron them and stack them properly in his cupboard. In all these years, my Mom never had to wash his clothes. It is from him that I learnt to be independent and be self-made.
- The little organizational skills I have, I have gained is solely from him. You won’t find a crease in his pants or shirt that he wore for the entire day. You must see the way he folds and keeps his handkerchiefs and socks that are meant for washing in the laundry bucket.
- He is the one who taught me Criticism must always be creative. Criticism merely for the sake of criticism is bad. Also, if you are a critic, you must be open to receive criticism too. Good or Bad.
- He taught me the significance of time…to manage time well and to be punctual at all time. He has always made it a point to be well on time to any place and any event. Luckily, I was able to imbibe some of this quality into my otherwise late-lateef patidev. 🙂
- He taught me to value relations. Ours is a huge family. Huge means really huge. At least about 500-600 people easily, of course 1st cousins, second cousins and all. My Dad used to visit Kerala for 15 days in 2 years. But he ensured that he visited almost all of them. When I used to crib that he was not spending time with us and going from house to house meeting distant relatives, he would say, “You never know who you’ll need when and also you never know when it’ll be the last time you meet someone. You should never regret not doing something when there was time.”
- Adjustment is another thing I’ve learnt from him. You give him anything to eat, he would not complain. You make him sleep anywhere, among any number of people, he will not complain for once. My parents house always was like a joint family even till recently, with some uncle, aunt, cousins, someone or the other all the time staying with us. Either from his side, or from my mother’s side. But I have never seen him complaining or sulking. Actually, both my parents for that matter. They never lost their cool at any time, even in the worst cases.
- Gratitude is one of the things I learnt from him. Being grateful for what you have. Being thankful for you are gifted with.
- He is the one who taught me to believe in myself. He has always given me so much freedom and independence and has always believed in my abilities and decisions. If not for him, I would have been a parasite all my life.
All in all, whatever I am today, whatever I have learnt till date, is influenced by my father. He’s the one who has nurtured my roots and I’m grateful to him for all that he made of me.
Love you, Acha (father in Malayalam)! 🙂